alone!
It was my moms birthday yesterday so before I did anything else after work, it was birthday celebration time. At least, I thought it was… I went and bought a red velvet cake with chocolate icing,mmmmm, and then I went to get her a dallas maverick jersey. She loves the mavs… (bad timing, since they were just eliminated from the playoffs, I know!)
Anyway, I was pulling up to wal-mart to get the hats, blowers, birthday paper plates and stuff when she called to tell me she was about to leave to run her new dog to petco to get a bath. NOOOOOO! So I rushed home with just the cake and her jersey and we didnt have the mini party. Man, I was really looking forward to that part. How come every time I try to have a party, it doesn’t work out?
Anyway, I got there and gave her everything and we hung out for a little bit and then I left so she could get on with her day.
About 2 days before bartendica broke up with me, I got us tickets to go to the kanye west concert. Since she broke up with me, I was kinda stressing about who I was going to take. I asked a couple friends (girls) to go and after being turned down, I decided to ask redneck steve to go. He agreed but had no idea who kanye was. The next day, yesterday, he kinda eluded to the fact that he really would rather hang out with some chick, so that meant I needed to find someone to go with me. As tempting as it was to call bartendica to ask her to go, I didn’t. well, at least not right away. not that she would have gone anyway.
So I made a few text messages to a few girls that were in my phone. Lets see, I got a few different responses. They were mostly things like, NO, NO, NO, NO, and oh yeah, NO!!! after the first couple of no’s it became more of a mission than a concert. Well, mission impossible that is… long story short, I ended up going to see kanye and rihanna in my tenth row seats by myself. But the concert was awesome. Rihanna was beautiful. Kanye was great. He stood on stage all alone for the entire time he performed. As usual, the concert was running late, so I asked my date, (myself), if he would mind if we left early. I answered “no, not at all.” So I caught a cab and headed to the casa! That’s one thing that’s great about going alone… you don’t have to check with anyone when you’re ready to go!
May 2, 2008 at 8:41 pm
Big Al, Love you tons but just one question??????? WHY is it that men only seem to realize how wonderful we are AFTER the damage is done & we will not speak to you????? I wonder……is it because you really have realized or that you just simply love the chase of a woman?? Again, love you on the show but just had to ask!!!!!
Jody
Toledo, OH
May 2, 2008 at 9:07 pm
I so wish you had tried to save this, and had paid attention to your woman instead of going days without contact on your days off. So sad that you could not commit to her and our as a couple.
You are feeling a little bit of what your future will be. Instead of being alone at a concert, because all the women said NO, you are going to be the old guy at the nursing home, hitting on all the young nurses, who joke about you, and of course, say NO to you.
If you had only said YES to Bartendica. I am so sad for you, that you think you are a playa like Steve.. and sad for both of you that you don’t realize young women want HIM for his money, and you for your local fame, when they DO bother.
You had a wonderful woman, and it would have been so easy to just be with her, why couldn’t you just be a couple?
I love you on the show, Al, but your life and your desire to be on this path, at your age…breaks my heart for you.
Don’t be the old guy at the home that everyone ridicules. Please. Get her back and pay attention to her. Your “playa” life is on the fast track to ending. It’s not cute for a man your age.
GET HER BACK, be a family with her. PLEASE Al, save yourself. Everything you are doing seals your fate as a man disconnected forever. Don’t live your life this way, it’s too short!
Get her back.
in the blink of an eye, you’ll be old and alone. Don’t be. You can change this. Do it.
May 3, 2008 at 2:53 am
hey al i was reading your blog and all i have to say is this man the grass isn’t always greener,refering to bartendica. if you want my advice man. me and my wife broke up when i moved to dallas she called me shelfish and i only thought of myself. to make a long story short i told her how i truly felt worked on somethings and now we have 2 kids and been married for 3 years. i’m not saying that is what can happen with u and bartendica but it can. i think u should still send her the text message so that way at least she can see were u are truly coming from cause being a young black man in mixxed relationship myself i know what u are going through.i have hard time opening up myself but i finally did it and took my gurl leaving for me to realize that. but keep ya head man things always have a way working their way out.
May 3, 2008 at 6:41 am
poor al. just cant seem to keep a woman. next try to spend more one on one time. heres hoping you find that woman in a short time
May 5, 2008 at 1:15 am
hey al, i feel bad for you man i know you just wanted to do something nice for your mom on her birthday. one day you will make it happen.
i wanted to thank you for giving my wife and i some t-shirts when we saw your show live, we came from louisiana to see you guys and got really lost. we only caought the last 15 min. of the show, kidd had to leave early to go to a meeting in new york. it was just a bad day for us, but you came out and talked to us and said you needed to cut ya moms grass or something. i don’t know, i am done rambling for the day… thanks again, keep wearin them white shoes playa…